Tuesday, May 7, 2013

The Home Stretch... Month 9 - November 2012

I'm preparing for the next step in my life, while enjoying the last few days of pregnancy!  Some of my plans, before baby arrives, include pampering myself, slowing down, focusing on myself, practicing inner peace, getting good rest, drinking lots of water and embracing what was...what is...and what will be! 

I started off the month with a weekly OB appointment, and discovered that I was GBS positive.  Group B Streptococcus is one of many different bacteria that normally live in our bodies.  Approximately one third of us carry GBS in our intestines without knowing.  It is estimated that 15-40% of pregnant women are carriers.  Women who are GBS positive can be given IV antibiotics during labour to prevent infection from passing to the newborn. 

The beginning of November...this 9th month of pregnancy...finally brought me some discomfort.  Pelvic girdle pain, sometimes called sacroiliac joint pain, and sometimes confused for sciatica.  During pregnancy, my body is producing a hormone called relaxin.  Relaxin softens the ligaments in my pelvis and other joints, which will help the baby to pass through during birth.  My pain has mostly been in my right butt cheek area, and feels the worst when trying to get out of bed, walking first thing in the morning or when making a sudden movement.  I am trying my best to embrace the pain, which is one of the signs that baby's head is engaging or moving down into the pelvis!  I get some relief by wonderful massages from Mike, feel good stretches/yoga positions (recommended by my doula), warm baths and sitting on an exercise ball!  I still cannot complain! 

Mike and I attended a Breastfeeding Me class on November 3rd.  This class is offered to women who are between 36-38 weeks pregnant, and prepare Moms-to-be to manage the first minutes, hours, days and weeks of breastfeeding. 

In early November, I started packing my hospital bags and began Christmas shopping.  Mike put the artwork and wall decals up in the nursery, and we are both so in love with the finished look!  The room is ready! 

On November 5th, I went to Seneca (YorkU campus) for a maternity photo shoot!  I spent a couple hours as the subject for Marc's photography students!  I can't wait to see their work.  A special thanks to Kathy for applying my make-up early that morning!  For someone that doesn't wear any, I was very happy with the subtle outcome! 

Lots happened on November 6th.  I met Ashleigh!  Ashleigh will be covering my maternity leave and we started training together today.  After only one day together, I felt confident that I would be leaving the program in good hands!  Still, it feels weird to know that I'll be leaving a place I've been coming to every day for the last 15-years!!  Bittersweet.  I was also spoiled today with a very generous gift from a co-worker, Jen!  I think she single-handedly stocked my baby inventory:  onesies, receiving blankets, baby blankets, wipes, washcloths, disposable diaper bags, cups/plates, books, and the list goes on.  Blessed and grateful!  I ended my day with a weekly OB appointment.  My blood pressure was measuring high, so I was sent for blood work and asked to do daily blood pressure checks until my next appointment.  I was also told to go to Labour & Delivery if my blood pressure was reading higher than 140/90. 

On Wednesday November 7th, I was 37-weeks and full-term!  Good thing because my blood pressure reading was 142/90 (on the left) and 155/90 (on the right)!  Up to Labour and Delivery I went, where I spent the entire morning.  I had a urine test (looking for protein) and a non-stress test.  A non-stress test evaluates the baby's condition (monitoring baby's heartbeat/movement and uterine contractions).  They also retrieved the results from Tuesday's blood work (which was to determine how my liver was functioning).  In the end, it looks like it may be a case of gestational hypertension.  Because my urine, non-stress and blood tests all came back normal, pre-eclampsia/toxemia was ruled out.  It was recommended (and prescribed) that I take meds (Labetalol) to lower my blood pressure until at least next week's OB appointment.  This was a struggle for me to accept.  My entire pregnancy had been going along so "text book" and the last thing I wanted was to introduce drugs into the baby's system.  I spent the entire evening researching this online, speaking to a nurse/friend, e-mailing with my Doula, discussing with Mike/family/friends and calling The Hospital for Sick Children-Motherisk.  The decision I came to that evening was to give it one last "natural" try before checking my blood pressure again Thursday morning.  So, I had a low-sodium dinner, rested all evening/night (on my left-side with my feet elevated), drank lots of water and meditated on all the positives. 

Woke up on November 8th with a blood pressure reading of 144/92 (left) and 150/99 (right).  I took the Labetalol.  By 1:00 p.m. that afternoon, my blood pressure was 130/80.  It was working.  Although I couldn't "feel" my high blood pressure, I know the numbers were dangerously high for me.  So, I instantly felt better in my head knowing it was back under control.  I also wanted Fetus-Reali to continue cooking, and without meds, I may have been facing early induction.

On November 10th, my hospital bags were fully packed and at the ready! 

On November 14th, I was 38-weeks pregnant.  My weekly OB appointment went well.  Blood pressure was normal, so we would continue on with the meds for at least another week.  My OB scheduled a biophysical for the following week as well.  The biophysical profile test is comprised of a non-stress test and an ultrasound.  The ultrasound looks at breathing movements, body movements, muscle tone and amniotic fluid.  A score of 0 to 10 will be given based on the information from both tests.  I'm looking forward to seeing Fetus-Reali again, as the last time was 20-weeks ago!!  I must make sure NOT to look below the waist.

On November 15th, I received Fetus-Reali's first Christmas gift from Jen S.  I so love the owl!
I spent the rest of the afternoon at Ashgrove Spa pampering myself for what I believed to be the last time before becoming a Mother.  I enjoyed a facial, mani, pedi and massage!  I felt brand new.  I hope I'm still glowing for my first meeting with Baby-Reali! 

Wonderful gifts from co-workers kept coming.  Thank you!  

On November 22nd, I had a biophysical ultrasound followed by my weekly OB appointment. How amazing it was to see Fetus-Reali again after 20-weeks!  I saw his/her tiny heart beating and saw him/her drinking in the amniotic fluid!  Must be thirsty, because my OB told me that my fluid was low and that my placenta had reached its maturity.  She also told me that Fetus-Reali was measuring small, at approximately 6-pounds.  The course of action she recommended was a non-stress test for the next morning, and induction in the next few days.  What overwhelming information to receive!  I called Mike and had a bit of a meltdown.  I scared him since I couldn't even communicate what had happened through my tears.  I must have worried him in the worst way, and felt horrible about it later.  Of course, he was my rock and supported me as always.  That evening, I got a call from Labour & Delivery informing me to come in for gel (to optimize/soften my cervix) on Saturday at 4:30 p.m., and then to return at 8:30 a.m. on Sunday for induction (IV oxytocin/oral prostin?).  I couldn't believe what was happening, and I didn't tell a soul.  My Doula, Christin, came over that night to debrief with me, listen to my feelings, discuss our new options and support us.  The 3 of us did a "fear release" HypnoBirthing script, and Mike and I felt much better after her visit.  I admit I was scared.  I have read about induction vs. the body being naturally ready to birth, and wonder if my labour will be much longer, if contractions will be more intense, if my chances of a C-section are greater.  However, I also know that being faced with induction does not mean my plans for a supernatural pain-free HypnoBirthing experience are lost.  Chin up!

On November 23rd, Mike and I headed to Labour & Delivery for a non-stress test.  Fetus-Reali is as "happy as a lark" the nurse told us.  Heartbeat was fast and strong!  He or she was moving around so much!  I needed to hear this more than anyone can know.  I needed this reassurance that all was well with Fetus-Reali inside of me.  Mike and I left happy and proud of our baby!  I came to the realization that today was my last day at work, but still, I couldn't tell a soul.  I don't know why.  I completed my Employment Insurance online, and put on my Out Of Office Alert.  I called my Mom that night.  I couldn't even tell her about the gel for the next day, but did report that I was being induced on Sunday.  I still didn't know what was holding me back?  Fear of the unknown, perhaps?

On November 24th, Mike and I stayed in bed for hours.  We put on the HypnoBirthing Rainbow Relaxation CD and meditated on the positives.  We were so relaxed, that we both fell asleep for a couple more hours.  Would this be our last day together, just the 2 of us?  I was told to call Labour & Delivery before heading in, which I did.  The unit was busy and I was told they would call me back when they wanted me to come in.  Mike headed out for a bit of grocery shopping so we could stock up for the days ahead.  I stayed home to wait for the call, but kept myself busy with laundry, a bit of cleaning and some final packing.  We got the call and were told to come in at 7:00 p.m.  We did quite a bit of waiting before being seen (shift change).  Mike had a coffee from Tim's and we shared a donut.  I was monitored pre-gel and post-gel, about 30-minutes each.  The OB on-call was great!  Mike was with me the whole time.  I'm so glad he got a newspaper, comfortable reclining chair and television (we were watching Austin Powers).  We were out at 9:00 p.m. and on our way home!   

We woke up just before 6:00 a.m. on November 25th.  Mike slept soundly through the night.  I was up almost every hour...not in pain, but feeling a crampy...heavy...pressure-type discomfort.  But, in the morning, it was pretty much gone.  Would this be our birthing day?  Mike made me French Toast for breakfast (my favourite)!!  I called Labour & Delivery to confirm arrival for 8:30 a.m., and was asked to come in at 9:00 a.m.  At 9:15, we had another non-stress test.  After the test, my OB checked me.  The gel had worked.  My cervix was 3cm dilated and 80% effaced.

I was admitted to Room 2140 at 11:00 a.m.  I had my last bite to eat before baby!  At 12:00 p.m., I had blood-work taken, IV antibiotics for GBS, IV Oxytocin and fetal monitoring.  My OB said the average I was looking at was 12-14 hours of labour...even longer being that this was my first baby.  

Although the Nurse told me I was having contractions throughout the afternoon, I didn't feel any.  Around 4:00 p.m., I finally started to feel cramping/contractions, and called my Doula to come (she had a 40-minute commute).  The next thing I know, these cramps/contractions that I just started to feel became crazy intense.  I went from the bed to the birthing ball, and Mike was massaging my lower back...he wasn't allowed to stop.  The pain was severe and I moaned, writhed and vocalized (more like primal screaming) through each new, frequent contraction.  I was ready to throw in the towel, as I still thought I had hours to go.  My progress had yet to be checked since being admitted.  The OB came at that time.  I was 8cm dilated, and 10 cm dilated only seconds later.  We were having a baby!!!!!  I breathed my baby girl into this world at 5:16 p.m., only minutes after my Doula arrived.  

Welcome Lorelai Marie Reali!
6 pounds, 6 ounces of sweet perfection!



Soon after birth, pretty much everyone from my family and everyone from Mike's family was there to celebrate the birth of our first born!  I was feeling great!  I enjoyed Mike's homemade Tortellini alla Panna for dinner...delish!  

Mike and I didn't sleep that night!  We were in love and overwhelmed by emotion!  We had our baby girl, she was perfect, and all was right with the world!

I took a shower first thing the morning of November 26th and felt amazing!  I truly believe that having a natural birth was the main reason I was feeling so "normal".  I had no pain, and I was up and about to accept MSH visitors all day!  I couldn't wait to go home, but had to wait for blood tests that had to happen 24-hours after delivery.  That evening, Mike and I took our precious baby girl home!  A new adventure had begun!  We were a family!  We were so happy and so emotional.  All we could do was look at her with love, through happy eyes (and tears of joy).  I will never forget the magic of my wonderful pregnancy and childbirth.  I had the most wonderful nurse that cared for our new family, and Dr. Peters delivered my healthy bundle (who came out smiling)!  She has smiled everyday since, and so have I.  We have a daughter!  We did it!  

The journey continues...


  

Friday, November 2, 2012

Nesting. Month 8 - October 2012.



"Nesting refers to an instinct or urge to prepare a home for the upcoming newborn(s).  It is commonly characterized by a strong urge to clean and organize one's home, and is one reason why couples who are expecting a baby often reorganize, arrange, and clean the house and surroundings."  Nesting Instinct
October was definitely a month of "getting ready".  From purchasing and receiving so much of what was needed...to instructions, to tools and assembly...to LOADS of laundry...to disinfecting and sanitizing.  We've been busy in the nest!

We were also overwhelmed by the generosity and support of others this month, as they also helped us to prepare the nest!

Early in October, I finally got to meet Phil's wife and son (Claire, and sweet baby-James).  I got the most useful baby supplies:  wipes, diapers, disposable change pads (who knew?), washcloths, etc.  I also got lullaby CDs, and I hear only great things about Jewel's CD.  Thank you so much, Noseworthy Family, for your thoughtfulness!!
My Mother-in-law bought me my baby shower outfit!  If you're ever in need for chic maternity apparel, be sure to visit Seven Women

On October 12th, Mike and I celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary!  Most of this day was spent planning and prepping for the best gift we could ever give each other...Fetus-Reali!  We brought both our vehicles in for the whole kit and caboodle!  We wanted to ensure that our rides were maintenanced and safe for our soon to be precious on-board cargo!  After that, I had a bi-weekly appointment with my OB.  That afternoon, we had our 2 baby car seats installed, 1 in each vehicle.  I would highly recommend Baby Car Seat Installers in Markham (http://www.carseatinstallers.com/).  At first, I wondered if I was being silly looking to a professional for installation.  After all, how hard could it be?  However, Mike and I learned a lot (some things we didn't even think of) and received clear instruction, demonstrations and hands-on practice!  I feel confident that my seats are correctly installed, and it puts my mind at ease knowing I'm ready to take my baby on his/her first journey (home from the hospital)!  

On October 14th, I celebrated my big, fat, multicultural baby shower with 78 of my closest family and friends!  What a wonderful afternoon at the Rouge River Community Centre, overlooking the Autumn splendor of the Markham Green Golf Club!  I wish to acknowledge my beautiful hostesses:  my sister-in-law Maria, my sister-in-law Lisa, and my forever friend Kathy!  Without them, the event would not have been possible.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart!  I want to thank everyone that came to celebrate and support me.  I am blessed, and truly grateful!  I was showered with so much love, generosity, thoughtfulness, wisdom and joy!  With everyone's help, I feel ready for the arrival of my first born. 
"In ordinary life we hardly realize that we receive a great deal more than we give, and that it is only with gratitude that life becomes rich." 

On October 17th, my all-staff meeting turned out to be a semi-fake!  They fooled me!  It was a mini baby shower complete with games, gifts and cake!  Thank you CDP!  I was 34-weeks pregnant!

Mid-October, we started receiving and assembling baby gear:  Play-yard, Mamaroo, Monitor, Mattress, Diaper Bag, Crib Mobile, Wipes Case, Highchair, Infant Car Seat Frame, and the list goes on and on and on...


With finally a bit of time, we celebrated our anniversary during the 3rd weekend of October!  Friday night, we enjoyed dinner at The Melting Pot, a unique, interactive fondue dining experience (The Melting Pot).  We spent the rest of the weekend on a bit of an anniversary shopping spree!  I'm glad the two of us got this time to spend together before baby makes 3! 
The 4th week of October, I had my last bi-weekly appointment with my OB (GBS swab).  I also met with my Doula, Christin.  We talked about our birthing day, the birth plan, placenta encapsulation, being ready to bring baby home (nursery, support, etc.). 


On October 26th, my Markham Stouffville Hospital colleagues hosted a wonderful baby shower in my honour!  20 of us were together celebrating what they have all been waiting so long for!  It was a fun-filled evening of games, delicious food and dessert, beautiful gifts, thoughtful tokens and wise advice!  A special thanks to the 3 hostesses - Carol, Debbie and Marianne.  I'm in love with my Skip Hop Treetop Friends crib bedding set, the homemade nursery artwork (courtesy of Nancy) and all the other wonderful surprises of the night!  Since May, Carol has been cross-stitching a blanket for the baby, and she's still going...unbelieveable!! 
  
We celebrated Mike's birthday (October 29th) on Saturday and Monday!  I can tell you one thing, cake is not out of style!  Mike was born on a full-moon, and his birthday this year was a full-moon.  Fetus-Reali's due date is also a full-moon...interesting...
With Peter, Daniela and Melissa
 
With Cheryl, Lisa, Paolo, Cassandra, Christopher, Andre/Nicolas











On October 28th, Mike and I took a 4-hour Child Lifeline Workshop.  This informative, interactive class focused on choking, breathing and bleeding emergencies, seizures, falls, accidental poisoning, burns, CPR, First Aid and prevention.  The dynamic presenter made the content fun-filled and relative!  I'm confident I can retain this valuable information!

At the end of October, Halloween 2012, I am 36-weeks pregnant!  1 more week to be considered "full term" and 4 more weeks until my estimated due date.  I have chux pads in my car and on my bed...I'm ready to go...LOL!  I feel fantastic.  I'm full of energy...no fatigue.  I'm still wearing heels!  I have no aches, pains or pressure.  The only symptoms I am experiencing, which are very mild, are ankle swelling (when I'm not being a healthy eater that day) and the occasional heartburn flare!  Oh, I do feel the need to pee much more often!  I'm not waddling yet, no practice labour that I am aware of, and still no stretch marks (still using coconut oil daily)!  I have yet to experience any constipation, headaches, leg cramps, a protruding naval or back pain.  Pregnancy does my body good!  In saying that, I better sign-off and get that hospital bag packed! 

Monday, October 1, 2012

HypnoBirthing. Month 7 - September 2012.

The month of August ended with me having to track my food and weight, due to a sudden gain in those 4-weeks.  Not only did September bring my favourite Autumn weather, but it also brought relief! 

I saw my OB/GYN on September 4th, and I was down 4.5 pounds since our last visit!!  Tracking what I was eating was quite the eye-opener.  What did I learn?  Dining at a restaurant, ordering in, or picking up take-out caused me to retain water and swell...almost immediately.  So, I stopped.  No more processed foods.  I started off the pregnancy so healthy, at the lowest weight I could recall.  Remember?  When did I veer off track?  I guess I was using the excuse, "eating for two".  I was glad for the wake-up call, and thankful that my care provider was accountable and professional!  Now, 3-weeks later (and being really good), I'm down another 1.5 pounds.  Healthy, home-cooked meals never tasted so good.  I won't lie, I miss the chocolate-peanut butter ice cream, but I choose my days to celebrate and indulge now.  September 26th was one of those days...mmm, the "dolce bombette"!! 

On Sunday September 2nd, I started HypnoBirthing.  The Mongan Method is a unique method of relaxed, natural childbirth education enhanced by self-hypnosis techniques.  It allows women to use their natural instincts to bring about a safer, easier, more comfortable birthing.  It is presented in a series of five classes, two-and-a-half hours each.  "HypnoBirthing is as new as tomorrow and as old as ancient times".  Of 1227 HypnoBirthing mothers surveyed, over 83% gave birth without any pain medication whatsoever.  HypnoBirthing mothers have a 50% reduction in C-section rates.  I hope you're not judging.  I realize this is not for everyone.  I'm not trying to be a superwoman.  In all honesty, the thought of the epidural scares me more than the thought of labour does.  The possibility of a pain free labour through better pain management, the potential for a drug free birth, less need for medical interventions, the reduction of post natal recovery time, reducing the chance of post natal depression, and generally shortened length of labour are the motivating benefits driving me.  I hope you'll cheer me along, whatever your beliefs!  My Doula, Christin Mandalentsis, teaches the class and Mike and I have met 3 other wonderful couples:  Helen & John (due in October); Camille & Chad (due in December); Dolly and Anthony (due in January). 

That night, I dreamt for the first time that I gave birth to a baby girl.  Mike already had this dream...also about a baby girl.  Were our dreams trying to tell us something?  I guess only time will tell...

On September 7th, I picked up my kit from Cells For Life.  Mike and I have decided to donate my cord blood to the Victoria Angel Registry of Hope Public Bank (http://www.cellsforlife.com/victoriaangel/).  They say give and you shall receive...

Well, I guess I did.  That same day, I received the car seat from my registry.  No matter what happens now, Baby-Reali can come home!!  Thank you for your generosity Angie, Laura, Rosanna, Lily, Antonella, Emma and Kayla!  I also want to thank Barb for the "Ipood" onesie...how fitting.  I can picture Baby-Reali wearing this outfit with purple boots on (just as Mommy would do).  xo.

The generosity of others continued...  On Saturday, my sister-in-law (Lisa) brought me a bag full of maternity clothes.  And, just in time!  I was going to a 50th birthday party that night, and needed something that wasn't casual or business attire.  I rocked new jeans, a beautiful green v-neck tunic and my sexy cowboy ankle boots. 

On Sunday, Kathy gave me a carseat that Sarah has now grown out of.  Thanks to her kindness, we now have both vehicles covered!  xo. 

On September 9th and 16th, we had HypnoBirthing classes 2 and 3.  We were learning how to prepare our minds and bodies for birth, how to go into deep relaxation easily and quickly, guided meditations, special breathing exercises and massage, birth positions, releasing negative emotions, fears and limiting thoughts.  It doesn't come easy...we had to practice everyday!

I started to feel the baby move differently, and in a new spot, the week of September 17th.  Since I first started feeling Fetus-Reali, it's always been low (bottom of my belly), and it always felt like jabs or kicks.  This week, it feels like Fetus-Reali is moving (not jabbing or kicking), and I feel it high (at the top of my belly).  Head-down, perhaps??

September 19th:  30-weeks pregnant.  Bought more coconut oil...still no stretch marks!

On September 21st, I received my "secret Elfster" gift.  My November 2012 Birth Club Group on Facebook organized a gift exchange, and I received mine from Lindsay Piggott!  Thank you for the bibs, rattle and card.  What a nice surpriseMy cousin that keeps on giving paid us another visit today...this time with a toddler bed, dresser and night stand.  He already has us prepared for 2 or 3 years down the road.  Daryl, I can't keep up with the thank-yous...we love you so much!!

On September 23rd, we had HypnoBirthing class 4.  Mike was sick and had to stay home.  I was on a solo mission.  We discussed our birth plan/preference sheets, birth rehearsal imagery, fear release, and labour.

On September 25th, I received another gift from my registry.  Jane purchased me a Fisher-Price Take Along Play Blanket, books (I Am Small, Goodnight Moon and I Love You Through and Through), and a duck bath thermometer.  I can't wait to read to Baby-Reali! 

On September 26th, I had my last "monthly" appointment with Dr. Peters!  31-weeks pregnant and only 9-weeks to go!  Fetus-Reali's heartbeat was strong at 156 bpm.  I'm measuring within normal limits, and Fetus-Reali is head down and ready to go!  I go back to Dr. Peters every 2-weeks now...on the home stretch!

That same night, I think Mike and I got a little bit closer to narrowing down names (for a boy and a girl).  It would mean a compromise for both of us, and is still not set in stone. 

On September 27th, Mike and I went to a workshop:  You, Me & Baby Makes 3 - Milestones from Birth to 6 Months.  Jillian, a paediatric Nurse at Markham Stouffville Hospital, was a fantastic instructor for Markham Prenatal!  We also met Catherine & Matthew (due December 4), Alicia (due October 2), Amy & Brent (due January 18) and Natalie & Joel (due December 17).  The content was informative and important:  sleep; bonding; eating; off to the Doctors; Here I grow (development and milestones).  Mike and I really valued the information presented in the workshop, and you could sense that everyone else in the class felt the same. 

On September 28th, we received a feeding chair from our registry.  Thank you Susy!!  We love you, and will miss seeing you at the shower.  A gift was not necessary, but we appreciate your thoughtfulness and generosity.  We also put the rocking chair in the nursery today.  This was the rocking chair my mother-in-law used with my baby-Daddy when he was just born!  Such sentiment!  Looking forward to dressing it up with Skip Hop Treetop friends pillows and throws!

September 30 - Our final HypnoBirthing class!  We discussed practice labour and moving into birthing; positions for descent and birthing; breathing baby down to birth; birth rehearsal imagery; family bonding with our baby.  We're ready!! 

September...my 7th month and still feeling great!  Still no symptoms to report...  My swelling and weight are under control; no stretch marks; hardly any heartburn; no real fatigue, no back pain, no leg muscle cramping.  I feel healthy, energetic and happy (oh, and my hair doesn't fall out in the shower)!  I have been blessed with a wonderful pregnancy and feel like a lucky lady!  Here's hoping my luck continues into labour and delivery...